Multicultural Couple Therapy

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Description:Most traditional couple-therapy models are based on the Eurocentric, middle-class value system and are not effective for today’s psychotherapists working in multicultural settings. Multicultural Couple Therapy is the first “hands-on” guide for integrating couple therapy with culture, race, ethnic identity, socioeconomic status, religious beliefs, sexual orientation, and immigration experiences.

The editors and a culturally diverse group of contributors follow a common outline of topics across chapters, related to theory, research, practice, and training. They report on the application of major evidence-based models of couple therapy and demonstrate the integral role played by contextually based values involved in relationships, conflict, and resolution.

Key Features

  • Presents a multiperspective approach that focuses on specific cultural issues in couple-therapy
  • Creates a cultural context for couples to help readers better understand key issues that affect relationships
  • Features a series of compelling “Case Examples” from the authors’ personal therapeutic experience in treatment with couples from diverse backgrounds
  • Includes “Additional Resource” sections, including suggested readings, films, and Web sites, as well as experiential exercises and topics for reflection

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This groundbreaking book provides an in-depth resource for clinicians, supervisors, educators, and students enrolled in courses in couple-therapy, marriage and family therapy, and multicultural counseling who are interested in how diverse clients define conflicts and what they consider to be functional solutions.

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About the Author

Mary Ann Lamanna is Professor Emerita of Sociology at the University of Nebraska at Omaha. She received her bachelor’s degree Phi Beta Kappa from Washington University (St. Louis) in political science, her master’s degree in sociology (minor in psychology) from the University of North Carolina, Chapel Hill, and her doctorate in sociology from the University of Notre Dame.

Research and teaching interests include family, reproduction, and gender and law. She is the author of Emile Durkheim on the Family (Sage, 2002) and co-author of a book on Vietnamese refugees. She has articles in law, sociology, and medical humanities journals. Current research concerns the sociology of literature, specifically “novels of terrorism” and a sociological analysis of Marcel Proust’s novel In Search of Lost Time. Professor Lamanna has two adult children, Larry and Valerie.

Agnes Riedmann is Professor of Sociology at California State University, Stanislaus. She attended Clarke College, Dubuque. She received her bachelor’s degree from Creighton University and her doctorate from the University of Nebraska. Her professional areas of interest are theory, family, and the sociology of body image.

She is author of Science That Colonizes: A Critique of Fertility Studies in Africa (Temple University Press, 1993). Dr. Riedmann spent academic year 2008-09 as a Fulbright Professor at the Graduate School for Social Research, affiliated with the Polish Academy of Sciences, Warsaw, where she taught courses in family, as well as in social policy and in globalization.

 

Making choices in a diverse society

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The text achieves an excellent balance between the sociological, or ecological and family systems theoretical perspectives, while including extensive coverage of family dynamics and interpersonal relationships.
The authors use warmth, humor, and an engaging presentation to create a highly readable text that offers insightful perspectives on the diversity of our modern society, including different ethnic traditions and family forms.
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Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man LP: What Men Really Think About Love

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Description:Steve Harvey, the host of the nationally syndicated Steve Harvey Morning Show, can’t count the number of impressive women he’s met over the years, whether it’s through the “Strawberry Letters” segment of his program or while on tour for his comedy shows.

Yet when it comes to relationships, they can’t figure out what makes men tick. Why? According to Steve it’s because they’re asking other women for advice when no one but another man can tell them how to find and keep a man. In Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Steve lets women inside the mindset of a man and sheds light on concepts and questions such as :

 

  • The Ninety Day Rule : Ford requires it of its employees. Should you require it of your man?
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  • And much more . . .

Sometimes funny, sometimes direct, but always truthful, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man is a book you must read if you want to understand how men think when it comes to relationships.

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Couple Therapy, Clinical Handbook, Third Edition

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Now in a revised and expanded third edition, this acclaimed handbook and clinical text provides comprehensive coverage of the full range of couple therapy interventions. Noted contributors, many of whom developed the approaches they describe, combine clear conceptual and historical exposition with hands-on presentations of therapeutic strategies and techniques.
Chapters in the new edition adhere even more closely to a uniform structure, facilitating easy comparison of different therapeutic models, and have been extensively rewritten to reflect the latest conceptual, clinical, and empirical advances. Entirely new chapters cover structural¿strategic, trans generational, narrative, solution-focused, brief integrative, and affective¿reconstructive approaches; prevention and psycho education; interventions with families during and after divorce; multicultural couple therapy; and treatment of clients with bipolar disorder as well as other psychiatric and medical problems.
  • Author: Alan S. Gurman
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The Healing Code: 6 Minutes to Heal the Source

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Description: The Healing Codeis your healing kit for life–to heal the issues you know about, and the ones you don’t. In 2001, Dr. Alex Loyd discovered how to activate a physical function built into the body that consistently and predictably removes the source of 95% of all illness and disease so that the neuro-immune system takes over its job of healing whatever is wrong with the body.

His findings were validated by tests and by the thousands of people from all over the world who have used The Healing Codes system to heal virtually any physical, emotional, or relational issue, as well as realize breakthroughs in success.

His testing also revealed that there is a “Universal Healing Code” that will heal most issues for most people. In this book you will get that Universal Healing Code, which takes only minutes to do. The book also includes :

 

  • The Seven Secrets of life, health, and prosperity
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  • Author: Alexander Loyd
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  • Title: The Healing Code: 6 Minutes to Heal the Source of Your Health, Success, or Relationship Issue

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The Psychology of Wealth: Understand Your Relationship

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Description:The Psychology of Wealth is a pertinent and comprehensive overview of the skills and mindset necessary for success. Prosperity can be achieved by anyone, and Dr. Richards shows the way.”
—Donald J. Trump“What’s in your head determines what’s in your wallet. Dr. Richards gives you the mental hard-drive upgrade you need to finally achieve the greater prosperity and success you desire.”
—Darren Hardy, Publisher, SUCCESS magazine“Dr. Richards shakes up our preconceptions about wealth by examining the psychological aspects of how we relate to money. When you understand the real sources of wealth in your life, you’ll find it much easier to achieve a more prosperous and happy life.”
—Jordan E. Goodman, America’s Money Answers Man at MoneyAnswers.com and Author of Master Your Money Type“This might be one of the most important books you’ll ever read. If you feel like your life has been stuck in neutral—or even worse, put in reverse—Dr. Richards will set you on a clear path to success.”
—Barnet Bain, Producer, What Dreams May ComeAbout the Book : Why do some people feel a perpetual state of lack and fear about money, while others feel genuinely prosperous, regardless of the size of their bank accounts? Why do some people shudder with dread when it comes to setting financial goals, while others embrace it with enthusiasm and confidence?

What makes the difference? Could it be in their relationship with money itself?

People who enjoy a healthy relationship with money share common habits and traits. So, how do they think, and what do they do differently? Are these behaviors hardwired in an individual’s psyche, or can they be learned?

In this provocative book, psychotherapist Dr. Charles Richards provides unexpected and encouraging answers to these questions. Based on his research and expert interviews, Dr. Richards shows how each of us can develop a thriving relationship with money and create a rich and rewarding life.

A t the book’s heart are the stories of people who have faced adversity with courage and created extraordinary lives. Their accounts—along with Dr. Richards’ interviews with finance professors, legislators, entrepreneurs, and mavens of success—pave a path to a brighter future for us all.

Today we live in a trying economic environment. Every day, popular financial advisors exhort us to hunker down, play it safe, and protect ourselves from an uncertain future. To the voices who promote fear and doubt, Dr. Richards answers with balance, wisdom, and optimism.

The Psychology of Wealth is for anyone interested in succeeding personally or professionally, and in achieving true prosperity. It offers golden steps on the path to a better life.

  • Author: Charles Richards
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Six Ways to Design a Relationship For the Next 25 Years

We are in the “Relationship Transformation Era.” How would you design a relationship for the next 25 years? It is suggested that people will live to be 125 years old; the average person will get married and divorced three times before having a successful relationship. The average age of a person who will find true love …75 years old! In the future, relationship partners will be sorted, selected, and delivered via the Internet or ordered on eBay.

What can be done to decrease the divorce rate, reduce the number of single female parents and enhance our ability to relate to our partners?

I am revealing six ways to do this which include selection, acceptance, communication, education, commitment and change in consciousness.

Selection

I believe women will improve their selection process out of necessity and their desire to decrease the number of failed relationships. Women have the ability to say “yes” or “no” to every relationship and since men are not the emotional gatekeepers, it is up to women to change the future of relationships. Women are committed to having successful relationships, which is demonstrated by their attendance in seminars, churches and personal growth and development workshops. They are the first to suggest seeing a therapist, relationship counseling, or relationship coaching. In comparing a relationship to a house, men are focused on the mortgage and maintenance of the house, while women are focused on the interior aesthetics, or the details of the home.

Acceptance

We see life differently; we’re always attempting to show our partners how life looks from our vantage point. The problem is our partners can’t see our lives with their glasses, most of them can only see their worlds with their own glasses. The solution is to have someone who is willing to see you with your glasses. Anyone who is interested and committed to seeing, and hearing your story, viewpoint, or interpretation of life is a gift.

Communication

Most people focus on talking; very few are authentic and active listeners. We can only hear through our biases and interpretations of life. We see and understand life in our own unique way; no two people see life exactly the same way, not even twins. It takes work and skill to be a heartfelt listener who is more interested in validation and empathy than interpretation and judgment.

Education

What would it be like if schools taught children how to listen as well as how to read and write? Listening is more important than speaking, since over 60% of all communication is through body language. No one is really listening; they are judging, interpreting and figuring out what they’re going to say before you finish, if you finish at all. Interpersonal skills are eroding with the advent of technology, e-mails, and texting.

Commitment

Communication, commitment and continued personal growth and development will be the cornerstones for the relationships of the future. As this fast-paced life changes like computers and cell phones, we must adapt to the changes and challenges facing relationships. If you are single or in partnership, a commitment to ride the waves of life will produce a smooth ride at the end; and that means selecting someone who is worthy of the ride of their life on your surf board. With co-habitation increasing, people need to know that the failure rate is higher than the divorce rate; marriage is the best commitment for a relationship.

Change in Consciousness

Relationships are like fingerprints. No two relationships are alike. Our unconscious minds are deluged with historical images and imprints that will never go away and these are influencing our thoughts and actions. The world is beginning to question and tackle global warming, food shortages, polluted water, energy and financial structures. It’s time to devote our attention to relationships of the future if our children have any hope of survival. The family structure is a safe haven for learning the basic skills of life.

All relationships starts with one person, but the next person begins a friendship, tribe, village, family, community, neighborhood, or partnership. Every bad or great relationship affects the planet. If we do not create stable, and healthy relationship models, consciously loving families will become extinct like polar bears in Antarctica. The family is truly one of our greatest natural resources. Let’s teach the children about recycling and family values through our modeling. It’s time to give birth to the “Relationship Transformation Era.”

When is a Relationship Bad? – Signs of a Toxic Relationship

How you can tell if your relationship really is bad for you and what you should do about it. You don’t have to stay in a relationship that is bad or toxic but if you choose to stay, there are things you can do to change it so that you have an even stronger relationship.

These are the signs that should be your first clues that you are in a toxic relationship.

1. Your partner verbally insults you and puts you down when you are with other people.

2. Actions speak louder than words so when your partner says “I love you” does it show?

3. Is your partner trying to control you? Checking your cell phone, wanting to know where you are at all times, even opening up your mail.

4. Your partner tries to make you feel like you are nothing without them or that you are incapable of taking care of yourself.

5. Have you gone so far as to try to change yourself for your partner? How you laugh, your hair, the way you dress?

When you are around someone who is toxic it can actually make you feel sick, so why does anyone stay in a toxic relationship? What would make someone continue to stay around anyone who seriously makes them feel sick emotionally or sometimes even physically?

Every toxic relationship has a pattern where in the beginning you are on cloud nine but that will quickly be followed by the storm. What will follow after that is the apology, sometimes with the promise it will not happen again but sooner or later the pattern starts all over from the beginning.

This can continue to go on for years or even decades unless you learn how to deal with it and put a stop to it. The best time to end this vicious cycle is in the beginning before it can have a chance to become a pattern but you can learn to deal with it even if you are already deep into the cycle.

We all know that in the beginning of a relationship it is at it’s most exciting and romantic. Once your partner has you where they want you and the pattern begins it may be difficult to get out of the relationship.

Often when a person is drawn into a toxic relationship they have grown up in a home that was toxic. This will result in their trying to repeat the patterns that they grew up with without even realizing it. They just think that this is normal and accept as a way of life. Yet some people just believe that happiness is not what they truly deserve and so they are drawn to toxic people. Sometimes it can even be that a person feels that they are taking care of their partner by staying in a bad relationship.

One of the first things you must realize if you are in a toxic relationship is that you do have a choice. Maybe you suffer from low self esteem or you feel that you are depressed but once you understand that you have choices you can take the next step which is to stand up for yourself.

Maybe your partner has made you feel that all of the problems are your fault and if you really believe this it can be very hard for you to walk away or to begin to set new boundaries that can begin to change the relationship.

Often people find that joining a therapy group can help them to decide on whether to get out or try to work things out in the relationship.

Whether you choose to stay or to leave the relationship, you can begin to break the cycle of these toxic patterns. There are people who have actually stayed and were able to mend the relationship and build an even stronger bond with their partner.

The fact is that these relationships can be saved but it will take some time and both partners have to be willing to work on saving the relationship. If you are both willing to do whatever it takes, you can find yourself able to bond in a more healthy way.

So, if the answer to the question “is your relationship bad” is yes, you have to make a decision as to whether the relationship can be saved or if you should just walk away. You have to be able to walk away if you really want to work on building a healthy relationship whether with your current partner or someone new.

If you are not getting what you need from your partner, you should let them know what you really want and make it clear that you are willing to walk away if they are not prepared to give it to you. Whether it be support, love, or just honesty, if your partner really wants to make the relationship work, they should be willing to work with you to give you what you need.

Having a healthy relationship works for both partners while in a toxic relationship only one person is getting anything out of the partnership.

You have decide what you really want, make the decision and go for it. Be strong and know that you have the strength to stand up for yourself and you will make the right decision. While you first instinct is usually the right one, take the time you need to figure things out and you will be much more likely to do what is best for you.

How Many Different Ways to End Relationships Are There?

The number of ways to end relationships is countless. You can point out to any number of ways to end a relationship and they all work. In fact it is really easy to end a relationship but there are few ways to save a relationship.

The differences in the number of ways to end a relationship far exceeds the number of ways to save a relationship.

But I consider relationships the core of having a healthy outlook on life. Both mentally and physically will a relationship affect you.

The reason a lot of relationships go south is basically because of poorly managed anger. There is stress everywhere and if we don’t know how to manage ourselves then we end up taking it out to our closest allies in life.

That’s our partner who probably undeservedly gets your wrath because of a bad day you experienced.

This article will go into how relationships start, endure and a lot of times end. We will talk about how to actually save a relationship and what steps to reconciliation should be taken in order to preserve the sanctity of the relationship.

By the end of this read you’ll know what to do so that you can get back on an even keel and reconcile your relationship.

All relationships start on a bright note of life. Both of you are in love and see nothing but stars in each others eyes. You talk to each other daily all about positive thoughts. You both feel good about each other. But it seems as time passes on that the spark is lost. What does that happen? The answer to that question lies in mutual trust of each other.

In order to know how to save a relationship you both have to be committed to that outcome. Admitting to each other that there is a problem that needs to be fixed is the very first step. That first step is crucial because it allows both of you to come out with your inner feelings.

Just as love is a mystery so are relationship problems. That is until it is discussed in an open environment and a feeling of wanting to get back together again.

At the times of turmoil it never seems that anything can be possible but if you keep a positive outlook on life and with each other you will be able to overcome.

Overcome the obstacles with a clear head when you’re able to pinpoint the problem. That problem will take a lot of questions and a lot of honesty coming out of both your hearts.

Knowing that relationship issues are symptoms of the real problem. The real problem lies deep within each person. If one person is having an affair then that is a symptom. Not a very good symptom and definitely one of the ways to end a relationship point blank. But if the relationship has been strong for a while then you’ll have to dig at the core reason why this happened in the first place.

Nobody said it would be easy but then nothing worth its effort is easy to come by.

The steps to reconciliation of the relationship come at a great emotional price. Coming out with the truth and finding out about yourself and your partner sometimes is nerve ending.

Both of you will need to take some time off from each other. During this time you need to find out the real cause of the affair or the breakup. Is it your fault or your partners fault? Prior to any type of incident has the relationship been strong and stable? If it has then what happened to change it?

If you think hard enough there will be something that sticks out in your mind that will come to light. Focus in on that and then talk about it.

Would it be worth saving your relationship if you can pinpoint the problem? If you could reverse the situation would you put forth the effort?

Is it worth the effort to save your relationship so that you can create a long last bond that make both of you commit to each other forever.

Only you can answer that question and there is a solution for you if you want to take it.

Sure there are many different ways to end relationships but it is far better to try a few ways to save a relationship in the long run.

Strange Bedfellows – 8 Types of Toxic and Dysfunctional Relationships

Difficult or toxic relationships do not at first appear to be toxic because Pop Culture has taught us to mate based on the idea of love — people tend to see and believe what they want to see and believe about the other person and the relationship. In some cases, the people involved in these toxic relationships are in so deep that what to some would appear toxic feels normal to them.

See if you can relate to any of these types of toxic relationships:

1. The “Parent-Child” Relationship

People who get into parent-child relationships have an intense need to recreate or compensate for the relationship they had with their own parent. Regardless of the psychological reasons behind this kind of relationship, in most cases this substantial “re-parenting arrangement” tends to reinforce the dysfunctional behavior — enabling, fantasy, ambivalence, confusion, guilt projection, double-bind messages, hostility and chronic negativity. You know this is not how a healthy relationship should be, but you have no idea how to make it right — or even want to make it right. Something about the toxicity of the relationship feels so familiar, even safe in a twisted kind of way.

2. The “Martyr” Relationship

This is where someone sacrifices and gives up everything — including their mental/emotional well-being — in the name of love. In your craving to be loved, you give and give, and nurture and nurture to a degree where it’s controlling and unhealthy. Because you believe that being “a martyr to love” makes you a loveable person, you tell yourself your love is unconditional but actually it is very conditional and selfish. Even when the relationship is abusive, you feel that you must really love this person to sacrifice and give up everything, though you can’t understand why you’d love someone who treats you badly.

3. The “Change Agent” Relationship

Most people who get into these relationships are convinced on some level that they can really make the other person a “better” person. Even faced with the reality that the other person will not change, you can’t accept and break free of the illusions of the “power to change someone” that you have created. In some way you actually feel “responsible” for the other person, and see leaving as abandoning him or her. But as they say, a man who marries a woman to “educate” her falls a victim to the same fallacy as the woman who marries a man to “reform” him.

4. The “Sponsor” Relationship

In this relationship, one person provides a sense of financial security and the other person feels obligated to the person who pays the bills. The only reason you are still in the relationship is because you 1) have the obligation to support the other person, 2) have no other way to support yourself or 3) both of you feel entitled to the “investment” you have made in the relationship and won’t let the other person have it all. But because the relationship is not about love, rage attacks, lies, cheating etc. are the menu of the day. The only thing you seem to agree on is the colour of money.

5. The “Exotic” Relationship

People obsessed with “exoticness” and “foreignness” often confuse love with obsession. They seek out a man or woman specifically because he or she is from a certain race, religion or culture; or because they’re obsessed with a particular accent, look or other characteristic associated with someone from a particular race, religion or culture etc. Even though the relationship feels exciting in many ways, almost all of your fights are about race, religion or culture. It’s always about one or the other feeling lonely, isolated, unconfident, unloved, or like the “outsider” — especially around the other’s socio-cultural networks.

6. The “Rebel” Relationship

Rebel-type daters choose a partner, who is exactly the opposite of everything their families and friends would want for them. You may be merely angry with your parents, family or social network or attempting to establish a sense of your own identity. You get a kick from watching your parent’s, sibling’s or friend’s reaction to your partner more than you actually get from the relationship. The relationship is simply “entertainment” and your partner the pawn in your reality TV Show.

7. The “Social Network” Relationship

This is when one or both people get into a relationship to have access to the other’s social circle, widen their social circle, or advance themselves up the social ladder. At first glance, everything looks “picture perfect” yet digging deeper reveals that you are a mere extension of a calculated social equation. Though this is a touchy subject that neither of you necessarily wants to talk about, one or both of you somehow manages to never let the other person “forget” who is dating up or dating down, who married up or married down the social ladder.

8. The “Neutered” Relationship

This kind of relationship is usually based on a great friendship; a close and mutual bond cemented by many years of being each other’s best friend. The sexual attraction/chemistry may or may not have been there in the initial stages, but you feel obligated to stay with each other because you see eye to eye in almost all areas of your lives. Though there is no sexual attraction between the two of you and you are not even physically sexually intimate, one or both of you feels jealous and rejected if the other is sexually attracted to someone else and feels betrayed and hurt if the other even mentions that he or she has sexual urges. You feel that if you don’t feel like having any or can’t have any, neither should he or she!

Bottom line: When we have toxic or dysfunctional relationships with others, it means we have a toxic relationship with ourselves. Remove what you view to be a toxic person from the relationship, and you are left on your own with only the mirror to look at.

Relationship Success – The Reality of Relationships

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Relationships are like gardens, teeth, and children – Relationship Success requires care and maintenance. If you don’t want your teeth, or if you feel brushing is too much daily work, stop and you will pay for your ignorance with Relationship Successpain and money.

We never partner with people we hate, but with someone we love, respect and admire. We live in a world of disposable products and relationships; an investment in a healthy partnership requires time, money and energy to learn about the reality of relationship success.

All romantic relationships begin with a euphoric wonderment of fantasy. Our expectations are unrealistic, our negative judgments are none existent, and failure is impossible. You are in the romantic stage of the relationship journey and your subconscious mind is asleep.

When we allow our subconscious mind to filter through the small and glaring imperfections of our partner, we start to notice what we failed to see or refused to see what was always visible: our incompatibilities.

This begins our fighting to be right, attempts to change our partner, lack of communication, poor sexual connection, and many other overlooked traits that destroy relationships. You are now in the conflict stage; stage two of the relationship success  journey or expedition! In fact this is the stage where most people separate or get divorced.

Relationship Success In-Depth

If you survive the second stage of conflict, you can then be on your way to a rebirth of love and acceptance. At this point we figure out who we are, who our partner is and how it is truly better to work together than suffer the pain of lose, starting a new relationship and not taking personal responsibility for our relationship choices. Congratulations, you are now ready for the continuation of more power struggles, conflicts and growth!

A conscious selection and decision about our potential partners requires delayed sexual gratification, intense investigation, and mutual atonement of shared values and visions.

Before we embark on seeking or selecting a partner we need to know who we are, what makes us happy and what would force us leave a relationship. If we can determine and identify what would have us leave a relationship in the early stages of the relationship, those insights should prevent us from repeating patterns of despair and failure.

We wouldn’t attempt to fly a plane without lessons, expect a three-year old to drive a car, or to perform brain surgery on ourselves.

Why should we have unrealistic expectations of our partners, when most of us have poor communication skills, lack authentic freedom in sexual expression, have histories of poor relationships, come from dysfunctional families and lack any semblance of competent relationship skills. All relationships are about us, not the other person.

Relationships reflect a journey of speed bumps, hairpin turns, inclines with declines, sudden slow downs, but never stop signs. You will never get to your destination, if you stop short of the goal line.

How would you ever know what it could feel like to win an Olympic gold medal, if you stop training before the competition?

If you look in your life, you will notice how you do anything is how you do everything. Do you complete your journeys or do you stop in the middle of the road? Do you have a history of failed relationships? Do you have more friends with successful relationships or are their relationships a reflection of suffering, tolerance and conflict.

Take classes, learn relationship skills, acquire tools, or hire a relationship coach before you find yourself with the majority of couples who go to therapy too late or get divorced only to start over again.

Don’t be the single person who becomes resigned, full of resentment and fear around relationships.

Eagles don’t fly with pigeons so associate with people who have found relationship success happiness. There is no scarcity, if you’re only looking for the right one.

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How to Get Out of a Bad Relationship – Can You Walk Away?

A bad relationship is one that involves continual frustration; the relationship seems to have potential but that potential is always just out of reach. And you need to know how freeing it is to understand that a bad relationship is not your fault.

The first reason to get out of a bad relationship is for the emotional health and well-being of both parties. Another reason is to make sure that the emotions and arguments that often exist in such a relationship does not escalate to physical violence by either party. Staying together despite your current situation and ignoring the fact that there is a problem is often delaying the inevitable. By doing so, you are actually committing an act of selfishness and egotism. 

 A sure sign of a depleting relationship is that one or both partners expect either to make the other happy or for their partner to make them happy. The essential problem is a breakdown in communication between the two partners. The main determinant if you are in a bad relationship is the behavior of your partner. 

Love

Love is, quite simply something we give, not something we receive. People fall in love for many different reasons. When you find love it can make anything seem possible. Being in love should not mean you give these things up. In such relationships, individuals are robbed of several essential freedoms; the freedom to be their best selves in the relationship, the freedom to love the other person through choice rather than through dependency, and the freedom to leave a situation that is destructive. Some stay together out of misguided love for a person who will never be right for him or her. You try to convince yourself that no one else out there would love you, and so you settled. So, instead of focusing on the celebration of love and partnership, it becomes a game of how to protect yourself from loss.

Abusive

The difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships is that in healthy relationships, the couple works towards the relationship equally. The most common hazard of bad relationship is the physical harm caused by an abusive partner. No matter how low you feel right now and no matter how impossible that might seem you CAN get over a bad relationship and move on. 

Problems

Courageously face your own problems and shortcomings. Many times, anger, mistrust, and other powerful negative emotions cause serious problems and these emotions can lead to physical confrontations. This lack of communication is what makes the problems grow in the early stages and furthermore, what makes them hugely difficult to deal with in the end stages of the relationship. Relationship problems cannott be solved with yelling and screaming .

The problems in a relationship may come from:

  • sex
  • money
  • quality time
  • control
  • outside influences
  • personal issues
  • infidelity
  • fear
  • listening to and supporting each other

All of the above problems can be addressed, perhaps not solved but at least addressed, through communication with each other. 

Health hazards

The common health hazards of being in a bad relationship include:

  • severe headaches
  • back pain
  • stomachaches caused by anger and frustration
  • insomnia
  • melancholy caused by emotional distress
  • weight problems caused by irregular behavioral patterns
  • depression. 

Leave and walk away?

Often, the dynamic in such relationships leaves at least one of the partners feeling worthless, which makes it harder to gain the courage and confidence to leave and forge out alone. When you are attempting to leave a dangerous relationship, that is NOT the time to be secretive. Despite the pain of these relationships, many rational and practical people find that they are unable to leave, even though they know the relationship is bad for them. It’s a situation that leaves both partners in divorce or break up limbo — a perilous situation that obstructs growth and self-awareness. 

Picking up the pieces of your life after a bad relationship is a challenge, and this is what keeps many people from getting out. The person who gets hurt is the one who wants the relationship to work the most. A bad relationship is characterized by needs never being met, continued frustration and feeling for a potential that is always out of reach. It is often very hard to end a love relationship even when you know it is bad for you. Surrounding yourself with compassionate, loving friends and family will help you see yourself as a worthwhile, worthy person again, and you’ll find it easier to get steady on your feet again with your loved ones around you so that you can make your break up process easy.